My Facebook Feed has been bitter and angry lately. I don't want it to be all cute kitties and recipes (although I have nothing against those things.) I am just tired of facing the truth.
OK, that's a statement of privilege if I've ever made one. And so, let me clarify.
I am not taking a break from truth.
The truth of people who think people of color are complaining about institutional racism and violence in order to ruin a good Sunday afternoon. The truth of people who think women should learn to take a joke and a quick poke in the privates so as to not ruin a good man's life. The truth of people who fear and hate those who are different from them that they want to stop their existence. The truth of people whose faith is based on personal supremacy and suppression of thought.
Even I can't take a break from that.
I know those things. Sometimes I need to look at it again so that I don't forget. I also need to see what lies people believe in good faith. You know what I mean. I need to hear their fears and presumptions in order to reach across the chasm. I need to explore my own fears and presumptions in order to build a bridge.
My Diocesan Bishop, Andrew Waldo, is said to ask us to make "Charitable Assumptions." This means that when someone says something that sounds snarky, I should listen with a whole heart before snapping back. And then, instead of snapping back when it turns out they are being snarky, I should listen to the fear and brokenness behind it. AND THEN, (even if they are a jackass and deserve one of my best sarcastic ZINGERS), I ought to respond with love, not necessarily passivity, and NOT jack up the argument. Jesus wasn't a wimp, remember, but he didn't give way to hurtful slaps. (Ok, he appears to roll his eyes at some of the questions he's asked, and it's been said that his response to the rich man who wanted to be his follower might have had a sarcastic edge to it, but you know what I mean.)
Shoulds and oughts shouldn't and oughtn't be taken on lightly. And I haven't taken these on lightly. Frankly, I suck at this and am making such baby steps that it does seem that I'm going backwards some days. That's where I am right now. Every once in a while, I am an instrument of peace.
Please join me.
Where have you been?
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